You have identified that you have multiple goals that you would like to work towards in the next 90 days. There are many ways you can prioritize these goals. Perhaps you already have. Or perhaps you’re unsure how to do that and where to start. If you’ve already prioritized your goals and you know what your TOP goal is for this 90-day journey, go ahead and skip to the section on goal setting below. If you’re not quite clear or settled on which goal you’d like to begin with, you may go back to the exercise that we used in your discovery call (the one in which you embody those choices as if they had already happened) or use a different method I have outlined below, or you can use something altogether different that you have already learned on your own.
The technique that I want to share with you I learned from Kendall Summerhawk some years ago when I was enrolled in her program. Over the years, I have taken what worked and modified it so that it better served me and now my clients. This technique uses three components: data, intuition, and trust.
- What is the result or outcome that you ultimately want?
- What problem are you most trying to solve?
- What exactly is the decision that you need to make?
- Is this a step towards the values I am living or away from them?
- Am I deciding or am I acquiescing?
- If worrying about what others think were no longer important to me, what would I do?
- Why is this important to me?
- Am I capable of doing the first step? (Don’t worry about steps 2, 3 or even 7!)
- What am I trusting? (Opinion of others, my intuition, facts, and figures, etc.)
The reason that I use these three categories is because there are upsides and downsides to only relying on logic or intuition. For example, the downsides of relying on logic are that you can get overwhelmed with conflicting data, you can become dependent upon other people for options or advice, or you can prolong your research and delay your decision. The downsides to only relying on your intuition are that it’s hard to explain your decision, your decision may make no logical sense, you may not have data to back it up, or you may second-guess yourself or be confused because of fear or excuses. This methodology combines both of those things and also adds in trust or faith, however it most resonates with you.
Once you have chosen your top goal and completed the goal setting section, go ahead and use the goal setting feedback form to continue to solidify the process for yourself. Your responses on the feedback form will also be the foundation for our next accountability call.
So hopefully by now you’ve determined which goal is going to be your top focus before this call. Keep in mind that you may simultaneously work on lots of goals by using this process at any point in time.
Now that you have the goal that you want to focus on, it’s time to refine it together.
Step 1: Refining the goal
What specific, measurable outcome do you want most in 90 days and why?
A well-formed outcome or goal is:
- Stated in the positive (says what we want, not what we don’t want).
- Initiated and maintained by self (we don’t need to rely on someone else changing).
- Achievable within the time frame given.
- Has a specific sensory-based description – so we know how it feels or looks. It is easy to measure or we have a description that tells us when we have it.
- Appropriate chunk size – big enough to be worthwhile, yet small enough to feel attainable.
Step 2: Identifying your motivation
The Big Motivating Factor (Affectionately known as The Big MOFA)
This is your why. When you think you know why, keep asking yourself, “What will having that do for me?” and repeat the question several times to understand what’s REALLY driving your desire to change.
Step 3: Staying connected
Anchoring the WHY or The Big Motivating Factor
An “anchor” is something physical in your environment that will remind you WHY you are doing this. It could be the screen saver on your phone, a picture on the refrigerator, or notes around the house.
Challenge yourself to choose an anchor for each of the 5 senses. Examples are:
- A favorite song
- A delightful smell
- A pleasurable taste
- A happy touch
- Or the anchor can be on your own body (i.e., a knuckle, the forearm, or the solar plexus)
Step 4: Setting yourself up for success
Clear The Clutter
Ask yourself, “Is there any clutter in my schedule or environment that needs clearing before I can move forward?” Brainstorm a list of all the things which could possibly get in the way of your commitment to yourself over the next 90 days. Of the things on your list, which of these are within your control? Put a star next to the things that are within your control. Which of these need clearing so that you create the conditions for your success from the beginning?
This is where you will stop and we will begin to work together. Please complete the form below and submit it prior to our next session together.
GOAL SETTING QUESTIONS:
- My specific, measurable outcome for my top goal is: *
- My big MOFA is: *
- My anchor(s) is(are): (list as many as possible) *
- Clutter I’m clearing to make room for what I truly desire: *